Posts Tagged ‘scrapbooking’
Why Does my Husband Keep Telling Me to “Just Relax”?
I am one of those people who is always doing seven things at once. It used to be called ‘multi-tasking,’ I think, but now I’ve read in several places that doing more things at one time just stresses people out. Gee, really? I never would have guessed!
I thought with summer here, I would have all this time to get stuff done that I was, honestly, too exhausted to do during the school year. But my list keeps getting longer. Here is a sample of how high I’ve set the bar for myself:
- Work on home improvement things, such as: paint the floor of our concrete porch, finish faux painting my daughter’s resale shop furniture, finish touch up painting from last year, finally paint our kitchen cabinets, put up trim boards that have been stuffed in a closet for months, finish painting in the bathroom, finish changing out old electrical outlets. This is just a sample, of course! However, I am happy to say that we have done a lot since moving in last June! This place was in need of heavy renovations before we could even live here…there were metallic monarch butterflies in the bathroom. Nobody should be made to live in that horror.
- The old, scary bathroom
- Beautiful new bathroom
- New closet, built by my hubby!
- Read books. Why does this sound like a chore? It’s really not, because I love books. But it takes time to read them, even though I read faster than most people. And time is hard to find! Try sitting down in a comfortable chair to read a book when a three-year-old is awake in your house. It is an exercise in extreme frustration! And I have too many other things to do while she’s napping or sleeping to sit down and read! Let me just say, thank goodness she still naps!
- Work on my scrapbooks. I have two right now that I want to finish, plus several more waiting in the wings. One is Sophie’s from age one. (She’s three now, so you can imagine how many more I have in mind for her!) Plus, I am putting together 2 scrapbooks of my parent’s 2003 trip to Italy. My mom bought all the stuff, but a scrapbooker she is not. So I offered to do them for her. A lot of work, but they are turning out awesome! Plus it is good practice (and good samples) for when my business idea comes into being.
- My actual job, as a preschool teacher. I have the summer off, but I want to plan for next year, plus I am dealing with those issues from my previous post. (I emailed my boss and she told me to write down my issues and send them to her. I don’t think she knows quite how heavy these issues are, but I am going to do the letter and send it to her. Fingers crossed!) So I have songs and poems to gather, materials to gather, ideas and lessons for units to write down, etc., etc.
- Be a decent parent while I am at home with my three-year-old all day, every day. You would think this would be easier since I teach three-year-olds for my actual job, but, sadly, I make many mistakes as a parent. I am not as patient as I would like to be, and I don’t do as many “kid activities” as I think I should. It’s hard to devote large chunks of time to playing dress up or mooshing homemade play doh or coloring pictures with that nagging voice in my head saying…shouldn’t you be doing this…and this…and this, and this? It’s one of those day by day things, I think, where I keep saying, “I’ll do better tomorrow, I promise I will!”
There. A list of five things. Simple, right? Just relax, stop trying so hard. That’s what I hear from my husband. His mindset is very different from mine. He doesn’t have the constant to-do list in his head that I have. He is not the main house cleaner, child-raiser and bill payer. He gets to just plunk his tired self on the couch and shoot people for three hours in Liberty City because he has the “I work two jobs” excuse. But that’s a rant best saved for another post…
Career Woes: Should I Stay or Should I Go, Now?
If I stay there will be trouble; if I go there will be double. Isn’t that how the song goes? That feels like my life right now, too. And trust me, it’s an uneasy feeling. Let me explain…
I have a steady full-time job right now as a preschool teacher. In fact, my job is the higher paying job between me and my husband’s (although his has the better benefits). The problem is this: this past school year was, to put it bluntly, hellish. I actually started looking for another job once summer break began, but found that I am actually being paid very well compared to a lot of other jobs in the area I live in. Plus, I get to work a public school schedule. So, in short, I’d be stupid to quit. (That’s the “if I go there will be double” part. Less pay and what if where I end up is worse?)
So my choice seems to be improving my lot where I’m at. Which means I need to have a talk with my boss, because there are many issues from the previous year that need to be dealt with before the new one starts. This is not going to be easy for me…I am one of those people who don’t like to make waves and don’t like to create enemies. So If anyone has advice on how to deal with an unpleasant work environment, I’ll take it. I am at this moment working up the courage to set up a meeting with my boss. My new motto is this: “If you can’t change your fate, change your attitude.” It’s all in the outlook, right?
So my next focus, aside from improving my lot at my day job, is my secret ambition. I want to start my own business. I’ve already done this once, and had some success as a ghostwriter. But I was a stay-at-home mom with my newborn at the time, and if we ever wanted to buy our own house and move out of my parents house (which was supposed to be temporary after we moved halfway across the country but ended up lasting 2 years!), I needed a steady paycheck. Hence the preschool teaching job. So my writing just fell by the wayside while I adjusted to a full time job and daycare for my baby girl…and renovating our house…and sleeping…well, you get the picture.
I would still like to pursue writing, and in a perfect world I would do both of my business ideas: writing and my new passion: creating handmade photo albums for others. (Okay, most people call it scrap booking, but I am still one of those people who view scrap booking as having a “cutesy” reputation, even though many awesome scrap bookers have elevated to an art form.) I love scrap booking because I can feel accomplished by finishing one page, and I can use my artistic bent (I love to draw and paint and minored in art in college, but never went anywhere with it. You know how artists are.) So I can feel like an artist, without the pressure of being an “artist.” So far, it’s just in the idea stage. But that’s my usual way, taking on way too many things at once. Full-time job, raising my daughter, scrap booking, reading, writing, researching business ideas, and doing all those things you have to do to keep your life running. (Making sure your husband still comes home every day, putting food in the fridge, making sure there are clean clothes to wear and there aren’t science projects in the sink, attempting to pay bills so the bill collectors stop calling. You know, important stuff.
So what do you think? Can you improve an unfulfilling job situation? Can you run a side business at the same time, and keep your family happy? Or maybe more importantly, can I do all that? I’ll keep you posted as I work my way through all of this!





